I don’t know if it is that time of the year or what, but so people appear to be unhappy. Why is that? In general we have so much to be happy for. Are we as Americans just an unhappy lot? Do we like to hear ourselves bitch and complain?
I am not talking about the “Damn, I don’t want to get up and work out at 5am”, type of unhappiness. I am talking about the kind that appears to come from somewhere deep in us. I like to think of myself as a half full kind of guy. I am not bubbly or overly charismatic, but I try to look on the bright side of things. There are people that will say I am not always happy. I raise my voice at the news on TV or really stupid calls by officials in my favorite sporting events. I am also a realist and sarcastic at times. But that doesn’t make me unhappy.
Since I am realist I have been told over and over that I am too hard on others, typically people who appear to me to be unhappy. I try to point out the good things in their lives, that sometimes there expectations are unrealistic. Why do people get angry or unhappy that they “only “lost 1.5lbs this week? Or did not PR a race? It is not realistic to be perfect.
Why is it that the individuals who get mad at something are the most likely to do the same type thing? Are they projecting? I have people around me who are convinced that others need to respond to them immediately, but then they like to hold back information or wait until the last minute to pass on information or complete a task. My personal opinion is that they do that for control reasons and think that anyone that doesn’t respond “their way” is trying to control them. Double standard?
Do you that angry or unhappy people sleep less? Worrying about things that they can’t control? Do they try to bring you down to make themselves feel better?
I know this isn’t exactly a happy (no pun intended) post, but it was something I was thinking about this morning on my run. Happiness is not always that flowery feeling. But look around you—is your spouse by your side (even if you don’t always agree?) are your kids healthy, are you trying to improve yourself or make yourself better? I like to play the cards I have been dealt, patiently made my decisions, and make the best of my situation.
What are your thoughts on the situation? Are you the unhappy one? Is the person making you unhappy really doing something wrong? Is it something you can change or should change?